tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.comments2024-03-07T13:22:24.765-05:00Inside Youth SportsJeffrey Rhoads [Inside Youth Sports]http://www.blogger.com/profile/14755096518688222702noreply@blogger.comBlogger267125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-85646020944349491182017-07-27T03:05:52.856-04:002017-07-27T03:05:52.856-04:00What a great topic! I have coached my son's fo...What a great topic! I have coached my son's football and baseball and soccer teams every year (age 5 to age 9 and counting) and so far, he has been exceptional in his ability. I am harder on him if he's not being supportive, or focused, but he has been the strongest player so far. What's interesting is that I have alot of parents that come with us year after year, and as their kids develop you really see the kids that are hungry to play and improve, and the ones that are only out there because the parents want them to play. I give every kid during practice the chance to play every position, and by the time games start I have a meeting with the parents and lay out the positions I think each kid will be best at. The crazy part is when I don't put my son at crucial spots they get on me about it lol. I think it's about developing their skillset, keeping it fun, and fostering a love for sports and for the team above everything else. <br /><br />To the parents, I would suggest if you want your kid to play more or be taught a certain position say something. I love when parents have that level of involvement, but just make sure you put the one on one time in with your child if their skillset isn't in alignment with the spot you want them in ( i.e. cant catch but you want them at first base). Annontmouscoachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08698399226768312504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-34122428988188445162017-07-27T03:04:40.222-04:002017-07-27T03:04:40.222-04:00Here's my two cents, as a coach of my son in m...Here's my two cents, as a coach of my son in multiple sports for 4 years now. I played division 1 football and basketball, and he and I have played football/basketball/baseball since he could hold the ball lol. I play all the kids that pay attention and focus and want to play, provided their effort is high offensively AND defensively. The kids that have skill gaps I play just as much, however not in crucial positions towards the end of close games. To this point he has been my strongest player, but I have several that have played with us for years that are exceptional players. The challenge comes in when parents want their kid at first base or point guard, but have not taken the time to teach their child how to play the sport. I can only so so much in the time I have, and can't spend full practices with one child to teach them how to play the spot their parents want them to. If your child (at least on my teams) works hard and focuses he will play. If he or she doesn't, they won't play as much. My son to this point has been the strongest player, but I think it's due to the time invested in building his skills. I guess I've been lucky that parents haven't had any issues with playing time so far, but I can definitely see how horrible it would be to see someone less talented played ahead of the more talented child. In my opinion that's not fair for the team, and teaches the wrong message. Sports isn't all inclusive, in that talent and skill and attitude earns play g time and the high profile positions. Anyone who doesn't play kids based on what's best for the team isn't teaching the value of team sports to them. Annontmouscoachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08698399226768312504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-71082006935078801192017-07-21T12:52:59.746-04:002017-07-21T12:52:59.746-04:00Like alot of thing with kids,it starts at home.Why...Like alot of thing with kids,it starts at home.Why should a kid that is late for practice or does not show up at all(because of parents)get the same or any playing time compared to the kid that practices every day at home,doesn't miss a practice and is more advanced because of it?This is what's wrong with America today.People want thing even though they don't put in the effort.I teach my kids to listen and learn from coaches.if you want to play more then do something about it.it will not be handed to you.also at this age its not about winning but learning and having fun..with that said ask any competitive kid if it was fun to loseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-32934325995503787712017-04-29T05:01:04.742-04:002017-04-29T05:01:04.742-04:00I admire this article for the well-researched cont...I admire this article for the well-researched content and excellent wording. I got so involved in this material that I couldn’t stop reading. I am impressed with your work and skill. Thank you so much. <a href="http://indoorsoccershoesonline.com" rel="nofollow">Christian Moitoso</a> <br />historypakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12429820414620086221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-49098226160852265372017-04-22T22:30:44.455-04:002017-04-22T22:30:44.455-04:00WOW!! I'm glad I came across this blog and sad...WOW!! I'm glad I came across this blog and sad all at the same time. Here I thought dad and I were alone in all of this. My 11 yr old plays little league. Although this is his first time playing spring ball he seems to have a natural way of it and plays pretty decently. He LOVES the sport and LOVES to play! Started out playing Fall Ball and had a great time, even though that coach had his kid in the team, he NEVER favored his kid over the rest. He was very fair and just. But for the first time we are experiencing this "Daddy Ball" crap and let me tell you it SUX!! This coach's kid ALWAYS bats AND pitches first, and Asst. Coach's kid ALWAYS second. After that, the coach's kid's buddies. BUT they all ALWAYS play EVERY game EVERY inning. The coach's kid is a poor sport, bad tempered, throws tantrums when he misses, or someone on his own team makes mistakes, cries on the field throws hat or glove down and stomps on it and overall makes his WHOLE team look like sore losers. Coach doesn't call him out or benches him, instead rewards him with continuous playing. Coach doesn't rotate or play them all fairly. My son, always goes to all the practices and he gets benched for it. Is dying to play but coaches always have some crappy excuse not to put him in. But his kid NEVER sees the bench. Coach has his favorites. We've played 8 games so far, and have won only 2..... both times, my kid was playing. AGAIN I'm not saying my kid is the best by any means, all I'm saying is that the treatment is HORRIBLY unfair. He's a decent player, and we feel the staff isn't giving him the opportunity to learn more and help his team. Bad thing is I feel if we say something my kid will suffer for it. Funny thing is the coach's name is Bennett!!! Wonder if its the same guy. I guess he really does think his kid will play MLB one day, although with his attitude he might be seeing the inside of the locker room showers if at all. Sad......Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-67179494059778015242017-03-18T02:52:13.374-04:002017-03-18T02:52:13.374-04:00The article references that a given, the coaches c...The article references that a given, the coaches child is better, i'd beg to differ, in our area, if it were 50/50 might be a fair statement , but i;ve seen that other kids with equal ability ere snubbed, Played a lot of ball, know good and not so good players and parent coaches, the root of most conflictspres rchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01039476676203797875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-64051036251675214802017-02-15T13:39:45.908-05:002017-02-15T13:39:45.908-05:00My husband & I are so frustrated with our team...My husband & I are so frustrated with our team because there are 5 coaches & everyone of their kids play the in field & none of them sit out. We even hired a coach so there wouldn't be any favoritism but the other 5 daddies/coaches are still involved & of course have some influence on the real coaches decisions... it's so aggravating. It's been this way at every league for the past 3 years. joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02261989555758456852noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-6036547078606529052016-12-29T03:02:45.305-05:002016-12-29T03:02:45.305-05:00I just wrote your book "the joy of youth spor...I just wrote your book "the joy of youth sports" and I am a Chinese dad living in Shanghai. Same issue here in Shanghai reflected that kids are not available in pickup games as they even do not have time for so much organized activities. I think if some sport organizations could purposely organzied kids to play pickup games, for example, the kids are get-together in a basketball camp, but the camp offers them not only an organized training sessions, but also give kids free time to play by themselves. It might be helpful to develop kids self-directed capability. Neil Huangnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-60990010053661773402016-10-29T13:11:20.437-04:002016-10-29T13:11:20.437-04:00The coach definitely takes advantage. My kid plaus...The coach definitely takes advantage. My kid plaus football and barely plays. The coaches kid who isn't even one of the top 5 players on the team plays on "every" single play. These are 10 year old kids. It's not fair. Being a competition level bodybuiler for 30 years now makes me excited for the day my kid to turn 12 so he can start lifting with me and since its a single sport all the work is up to him and if he wins or loses its all on him.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08210471437114353310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-18990494637794076312016-10-29T13:06:39.817-04:002016-10-29T13:06:39.817-04:00The coach definitely takes advantage. My kid plaus...The coach definitely takes advantage. My kid plaus football and barely plays. The coaches kid who isn't even one of the top 5 players on the team plays on "every" single play. These are 10 year old kids. It's not fair. Being a competition level bodybuiler for 30 years now makes me excited for the day my kid to turn 12 so he can start lifting with me and since its a single sport all the work is up to him and if he wins or loses its all on him.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08210471437114353310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-89539676005330785332016-10-24T06:36:46.435-04:002016-10-24T06:36:46.435-04:00Sometimes it is frustrating as a parent when other...Sometimes it is frustrating as a parent when other parents complain about position or playing time because often the position or playing time comes from another player whose parents don't complain because they understand why a coach makes these decisions. Complaining to a coach, who then bends to those complaints is a form of entitlement in some cases. Example: my son plays right mid in travel soccer because it is absolutely his best position and all coaches and parents have remarked about it. He plays about the same amount of time as everyone else on the team. A parent complained about their child playing defense, so guess what? My son played defense the next game with no prior coaching on the position. Next game, a parent complained about playing time. Guess what? My son played less than half of the game. The team is on a losing streak and I actually overheard them saying, "OMG why are they moving him there" and "OMG why are they taking one of the team's best players out while we are down?" You know why? Because parents complained. It's good to advocate for your child, sure, but know that it comes at the expense of others and sometimes the team too. <br /><br />From a parent that doesn't complain to the coach.squimbshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16532948646868757094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-12021667156107534812016-10-17T17:04:37.916-04:002016-10-17T17:04:37.916-04:00There is a reason your kids are not playing as muc...There is a reason your kids are not playing as much, they are not good! I'm not a fan of bench players, most of the time their time would be better spent pursuing other interests. If your kid is working non stop to get better and improve, then by all means let them keep chasing their dream they will realize it, if they don't pick up a ball in between practices, might be time to move on. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-54864217176035240872016-10-05T15:32:28.014-04:002016-10-05T15:32:28.014-04:00The "I'm coachin, so my kid is playin&quo...The "I'm coachin, so my kid is playin" comment is cringing! You'd better be undefeated, have a child that us more competitive and athletic than ANY OTHER, and scheme the whole team. With that said, I believe (in football anyway) the coach's kid is best at QB for the simple fact that there's only an X amount of "legal" practice hours per week...and with a kid playing QB you can get around this rule. Again, he'd better be a great fit, but even as nearly equal it's beneficial to have unlimited time to "coach" the QB. For the record, I'm a parent/ assisstant coach and my son plays FB, is good, and hits well (head coach's son plays QB) and my only complaint is that my son has ran the ball 2 times in 2 games (due to QB dives taking up the middle runs...wth?). All in all though, I feel my son has earned his spot as starting FB through compliance, respect, enthusiasm, and hard work in practice.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-23806506501521566132016-10-03T06:31:40.280-04:002016-10-03T06:31:40.280-04:00Definitely the confidence is path of success and y...Definitely the confidence is path of success and yes sports gives that confidence to go for it.<br /><a href="https://www.zurkab.com/" rel="nofollow">sports</a>Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16010033372027941361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-91911854124054575822016-09-22T09:47:35.135-04:002016-09-22T09:47:35.135-04:00Thanks for this post! This is pretty interesting. ...Thanks for this post! This is pretty interesting. I love your blog keep up the good work! <a href="http://d1basketballstl.com/" rel="nofollow"> basketball training </a>, <a href="http://d1basketballstl.com/" rel="nofollow"> youth basketball </a>Larry Hugheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05401938645851526959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-80939018310024977752016-08-18T15:10:46.439-04:002016-08-18T15:10:46.439-04:00This happens all the time. Now, my son has played ...This happens all the time. Now, my son has played QB for the past 3 years in a City Football League, and he has recently enrolled in a Church Football League. He is a tall child for his age. During sign up we were stopped by someone and said, "Hey is he playing" Upon hearing "Yes" he called one of the coaches and said to sign him in the draft for Lineman. This irritated me from the start, but I said I would give it a shot and not say anything. So along comes the first practice. There he is on the Line while the coach has 2 others playing the position of QB. One, the coaches son is the shortest on the team and cant see over the line. He also can't throw more than 15 feet. The other, another good friend's son (first time playing football). Again has no idea of what he is doing. Meanwhile, my son with 3 years experience is playing line. This is more than obvious favoritism. This happens more times than Not. What should a parent say or do without causing conflict. And before you start, Im not saying that my son should play QB, but when he has the experience and there are others on the team that you can see are far better at the position something needs to be done.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-40341450814411782792016-07-24T12:58:57.414-04:002016-07-24T12:58:57.414-04:00Absolutely agree.Absolutely agree.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-35533470514817142782016-06-11T15:28:48.548-04:002016-06-11T15:28:48.548-04:00Its difficult to watch three coaches daughters shi...Its difficult to watch three coaches daughters shift pitching, catching and first base and count the errors. While my daughter is a first baseman with far less errors and gets thrown in the outfield. more difficult is that the arrogance/entitlement attitude. two of these girls are a foot shorter than my daughter and don't have the reach. this is a U12 team. further frustration mounts when my daughter's attendance to practice is flawless as well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-83667414399449062602016-05-18T18:19:15.559-04:002016-05-18T18:19:15.559-04:00So I don't get it. Do you or do you not want g...So I don't get it. Do you or do you not want girls in high school to play on boys team's? I personally as finishing my 9th grade year think that it could be a great thing for our oncoming seniors in certain sports. And what about football? We have some girls who mess around with the idea and then some who actually want to try out. What do you say to that. Should they try out. <br />This has all come to my attention because of a speech topic and I chose this one! And I don't get it at all. I mean Education Amendments Title IX states that girls and boys should have equal slots but now a day there seems to be only sports for girls and boys!<br />I mean for example look at the girl who is a quarterback in Florida for her South Plantation High School team. Why isn't everyone OK with that. We all love to do certain things. Why can't we just express ourselves! It's what everyone wants these days. I'M JUST REALLY CONFUSED!!!!!! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-41733916159913962302016-04-29T12:10:36.331-04:002016-04-29T12:10:36.331-04:00It is a shame that youth sports has come to this. ...It is a shame that youth sports has come to this. None of my coaches from Little League to College had a son on the team. Never heard any complaints about playing time. Now that is the hot topic. The problem is finding those qualified individuals who have the time to put in, but don't have horse in the race. We are involved in a situation where the coaches son has the talent to play. It is the son's friends who are not and have gotten the positions and playing time. It is hard to see your son go through this, because he is not part of the coaches son's friend group.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-22036436798409815362016-03-29T21:53:50.573-04:002016-03-29T21:53:50.573-04:00What about kids not getting chances to play positi...What about kids not getting chances to play positions where they would thrive? My 12 year old son is in a competitive soccer team where he has been playing defence for 3 years in a row, although he is a natural striker. He does not do well in defence. In the meantime the coach's son (weaker at the start) has been given umpteenth chances to play striker and score all the goals. Because of that he is then constantly called up and plays with stronger players who are even better at getting the ball to him and naturally he continues to develop. 3 years later because this coach's son has played in his preferred position and has 2-3 times as much game time as my son, he is full of confidence while my son has lost all confidence playing as a defender and it not being his natural inclination at all. He is not enjoying soccer. The couple of times he was given a chance to play striker, the other team was so strong the ball never even got past the halfway line so he hardly touched it. So the coach has never seen what he can do in the right circumstances. It's a cycle of missed opportunities.<br /><br />He has tried talking to the coach who has told the players they are not allowed to ask if they can play certain positions. It is up to the coach to assign positions. I just wonder, if he should just suck it up and continue to play defence. It just feels he has not gotten the same chances to prove himself as the coach's son, which I guess is to be expected.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-61501598394194990512016-03-12T13:04:25.475-05:002016-03-12T13:04:25.475-05:00A lot of blogs I see these days don't really p...A lot of blogs I see these days don't really provide anything that I'm interested in, but I'm most definitely interested in this one.Janice Hasselhttp://theoutdoorrecreation.com/paintball-everyones-safe-healthy-sport/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-26657531360332599152016-02-29T07:35:00.776-05:002016-02-29T07:35:00.776-05:00The first thing is that nobody’s perfect! Performi...The first thing is that nobody’s perfect! Performing to the best of your ability and challenging yourself each time is tough. The results are often not seen until months or even years of training have taken place. It can be difficult for anyone to stay motivated in the long-term, particularly if they are training solo and have nobody to make them accountable. That’s just one example of when motivating coaches and <a href="http://www.successfulspeakers.com.au/topic/sport" rel="nofollow">Sports Inspirational Speakers</a> can step in.Motivation is an essential part of sports performance. Self-motivation and extrinsic motivation combined together form the best kind of motivation and encourage goal setting and working hard to reach that goal.Carol Jenningshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10301690852524268341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-75407300171557847102016-02-09T03:51:37.888-05:002016-02-09T03:51:37.888-05:00Provide kids with the opportunity to engage in sel...Provide kids with the opportunity to engage in self-directed play like in neighborhood pick-up games. In this setting, children are required to manage their own behaviour. Self-indulgent actions (blaming others, hogging the ball) will negatively affect “the game” and will quickly result in the group shunning the offender.Cadieux et Langevinhttp://drcadieuxlangevin.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7418180976901891245.post-42976159550641097922016-02-05T18:51:11.672-05:002016-02-05T18:51:11.672-05:00As someone who has coached all three of his boys f...As someone who has coached all three of his boys for the last 10 years, I never had unrealistic expectations for my boys. My middle son was a baseball monster, while my oldest was just average. My youngest just enjoys the game and loves having me coach him.<br />But what gets me in this day and age, is how hard it is to get dads to step up and coach a little league rec team. Look, we're all busy but aren't our kids our priority? Back when I was growing up, it was almost expected that you would coach your kid in some capacity. We were turning away dads left and right because we had too many parents wanting to coach. But now, we have to plead and beg for coaches.<br />Why is that?<br />Does coaching have that bad of a rap that it's now a no-deal for parents?<br />I get it, that some people just shouldn't be coaches for whatever reason (no skills, no patience, etc). But it's not that hard to wrangle a bunch of kids, especially under-13.<br />Just my two cents.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com